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I'll get straight to the point.

Everyone should really, REALLY, get a job in the service industry. I am an INTERIOR DESIGNER, NOT A MIRACLE/CHARITY WORKER.

My job, is to design and manage the renovation progress FOR the clients.

By far, I've had 2 clients who are unappreciative and expects a lot more than what they're paying.

And before I proceed, understand that anything you want to customize will definitely be more expensive than what you buy off the shelf. So do not expect for a cheap bargain when you want a customized item.

Client 1: An Indian lady who wants:

A new TV feature wall and TV console.
TWO display shelves for her many many figurines.
A 2ft half height shoe cabinet.
A 3ft storage cabinet.

But, let me add in, she's only willing to spend LESS THAN $4000 total.

So, that's fine. I gave a quotation of $3855. Now, bare in mind, I am merely charging her for the items. And I did not charge for the service that I provide. My service includes:

My time

My efforts

3D drawings which I prepared

2D drawings which I also prepared

My own transport

Designing the furniture

Calling and arranging contractors

The patient to handle the client

Who's gonna cover that? Moreover, she kept rejecting my ideas, especially the shoe cabinet. Her requirements are, to be able to fit a lot of shoes, BUT, doesn't want it to look like a shoe cabinet. But she would reject all of my ideas, and when I told her to go online and search for something she likes, she said "I don't find any that I like.".....WTF lady! You don't know what you want yet you wanted a special design, but do not want to top up money if it requires money?!?! It's only 2ft and half height! And you want to put a lot of shoes! But you don't want it to look like a shoe cabinet??? Do you understand how limited I can design for you?

There were times when we both sat down and chatted, she told me how her husband had treated her unfairly, and that she's paying for the whole furniture herself. She sounded so sad, I pitied her.

So when all's done, she wanted me to help her fix her TV on her new TV feature wall, so I did. Now, understand that it is, by right, not my job to do so, because I am the designer, I design stuff, I make sure the job (that you pay for) is done. But I helped her anyway, as a friend. But that doesn't seem like that's what she thinks.

So, she sat in her chair, and watched me put all the TVs together. All the way through.

I had a colleague with me to help me fix the TV. She wouldn't let us leave until the TV is working. BUT she wouldn't help us when we have no clue what the wire is for. To her, it is MY JOB. Lady, I am NOT an electrician, nor do I understand how your TV works. More over, people would charge you for installation fee, I did not.

And when all is finally done, which took us almost 3 hours. she thanked me, made her payments, and mentions that she spent A LOT. And that's it.

My colleague scolded me, saying that it's not our job to do this, and that lady was really unappreciative because she sounded so insincere. I didn't know what to say, I did so because I pitied her, but it really did made me feel so used and in a very unappreciative way.

3 Months later, I get a call from her, saying that the storage cabinet is interrupting the wire of her iron. Which, before we ended the project, she checked and said it was fine. Now she comes to me complaining that she wants us to drill a bigger hole. I explained to her that, due to the small space, we could not do so as the drill could not fit in, but the problem can be solved by simply using an plug extension. But nope. she said she's not happy. And wanted to file a complain to say that we did not do our job properly. Like, seriously, I asked you to check. And you said everything was ok and now 3 months later you said it was not? Now you want to file a complain against me?

It was a small issue and a small project, but I had to do so much work but still be complained. Imagine if I were to renovate her whole house, how much would she have bargained for, and how much of her do I still have to put up?

I've been working as a Sales Interior Designer in Singapore for a full year now, so, I, like many other colleagues of mine, have receive a fair share of ~~shitty~~ unreasonable clients.

So, before I began ranting, here's a brief explanation of what I do, as a Sales Interior Designer in Singapore. (Note: I do not represent what all Sales Interior Designers in Singapore do, I will merely comment as a Sales Interior Designer, who's from Malaysia, and working in only one of Singapore's ID firms, I shall not name which firm, but if you're a stalker, you'll find that out easily.)

I have no basic pay, no transport claims from the company, and no working schedule.

I earn what I put effort into, so as what us Chinese like to say: "一分钱一分货 " meaning, you pay for what you get, in a metaphorical way, it means I get what I work for. So, you can assume that it must have been a very risky job, knowing that it's unstable, that if I do not have clients, then I wouldn't have income. That is probably why no one ever stays long in this job, because we all want stability.

I'll have to admit, for the first 10 months, I was completely broke. I have a bit of an income from a few small projects, but it's barely enough to keep me through. I had to borrow money from the firm to pay off my house rental fees because I didn't even have spare money. But once some of my bigger projects started, I started earning enough, then I was able to pay off all the money I owed.

Basically what I do is, at least once a month, Singapore Expo would host a Home Reno expo, which, many ID firms as well as furniture stores would sign up and hope to meet potential clients, much like PC Fairs. So, we, as the sales interior designer, would then approach potential clients and try our best to win their projects, if not, then take them as potential leads to follower up afterwards. So, when I do have clients, I'll go through the progress of space planning and designing for them, I'll propose ideas, come up with sketches and suggestions, mood boards, colours and laminates, and all in all, still come up with a quotation that will hopefully not burn a hole in their wallet. Let me list it down so you wouldn't get confused:

Space Planning
Mood Board
Propose Designs (Come up with sketches)
Propose Colors & Laminates
Come up with 3D Drawing

Ok, so once that's done, we'll have to wait for the collection of the keys of the owner. and THEN we proceed to the renovation part of the job (Yes, I'm not done explaining about what I do)

So, once the keys are taken, I will then apply for HDB permit (If hacking works are involved), and shall wait for the approval, which takes 3 days for hacking of wall and floor tiles, and 7 working days for hacking of a wall)

I'll have to arrange for the:

Hacker/Haulage
Tiler
Electrician
Ceiling/Partition
Ordering of the selected tiles
Ordering of materials needed (Example: cement, bricks)
Apply for required permits (Example: Installation of window/window grille permits)
Carpenter
Plumber
Cleaner

And that's just part of the people we have to coordinate with.

And sometimes, sites cock up, the real site is not as big as the floor plan, things do not go as planned. It happens. And who is there to clean up the mess? Me.

But do clients care? Some do, the really good ones, but the really unreasonable ones, oh boy.... they're ~~fucking~~ messed up!

I had one client, who is in his late 60s, who was fired from his job, and had nothing better to do, so he spend every single day on site, talking to my workers! Now, that's not an issue, the issue is, he would brag about himself and his accommodations to everyone! AND I MEAN EVERYONE!!! He would take out his iPhone 6, and show everyone pictures and messages from people he's helped. I know I know, he's a good guy with a kind heart, helping people here and there. But parading around telling everyone what he's done? That's just showing off. I know there's no wrong in being prideful of what he did, but c'mon, openly showing people who didn't really want to talk to you? My workers are there to work, not listen to you bragging.

It's not just me, EVERY ONE of my workers didn't like him. My colleague/partner who worked with me on this project, he gave up the project because he didn't want to have to deal with that uncle! Whats so bad about the uncle? You might ask. Well, for starters, he's a stubborn ~~prick~~ old man, who refuse to listen to any advise we, the DESIGNERS, give, and then would blame us for not advising beforehand. Uh, I'm sorry, but I did, and YOU REFUSED TO LISTEN??!?

One moment he would say tell us to proceed with it, and the next, he would say the opposite!!! Making sudden/last minute changes even when I specifically told him not to anymore, because the layout was confirmed (by him) and already started fabricating. He'd expect that the sudden changes can be correct and amended instantly and complain when there's delays.

There's this one incident, when we were going through parquet flooring, he insisted he wanted Burmese parquet flooring, which was better quality but more expensive. But as you know, parquet flooring is more expensive than Laminated flooring because Parquet is made of natural wood, so you'd assume that, for someone who wants to use a natural material, would understand that we cannot control the color nature of that particular tree, the colors of the wood would change through time based on the conditions it's in, so it's not in our control (at least it's not in my control). I did, explain it to him, and showed him a fresh sample of the Burmese wood. He, however, freaked out. Saying it's not the color he wanted................

He demanded that we 'choose' the lighter shades of the natural wood, we explained to him that it's not in our control to do so, because Burmese wood is darker toned in nature but the color will lighten through time. His wife, tries to reason with him, telling him that it's indeed a natural material and that the colors will change through time. So he said ok, and we continued our other discussions and settled most of the things. We assumed the meeting had gone great. That is.... until that night.....

It was around 4.30AM and I was awaken by my phone's whatsapp notification... (Note: I have removed the group chat name as well as the client's name.)

Do note the time of the message. I was asleep! And his message woke me up! I couldn't get back to sleep after that! His daughter and wife both apologized for his behavior and told me to shut my whatsapp notification off when I go to sleep, which I did not at first, but this was not the last time he texted me in the middle of the night. He did so a few more times, and I eventually shut to notifications off.

Now, don't get misguided by the content, I showed him the RIGHT parquet, I specially requested from the parquet company to get samples so that I could show him, and HE was the one who insisted on Burmese wood, because he wants good quality stuff, but now in this message, he changes his mind and wants something cheaper. And note, in the last chatbox, he mentioned that 'The first parquet u showed me was good. But now u show was different.' I showed him a Burmese parquet sample that was more than 4 years old. And like I mentioned to him, the colour of Burmese wood would lighten up through time, but I guess his stubborn mind could not process that in?

As for the delay? His hacking permit was rejected by HDB, how could we have predicted that? How unlucky can this guy be? VERY unlucky apparently. For one, we applied for the hacking permit, based on HIS space planning (his mind was made up.) and got rejected, because apparently it was a concrete wall. So we had to get a Professional engineer's approval before we're able to reapply. So, we did, and more than 7 days passed yet, no news. He was furious! Of course he was! Nothing was going according to his plan! But eventually he went to HDB himself and we made a few calls and finally got the approval.

You think that's all? That's cute....

In another unlucky incident, after the whole Burmese parquet quarrel, I suggest using laminated flooring for him, because it has the color he wanted and the price range was good for him. He was so happy. So I called the Laminated flooring company to make bookings for that color.....to which they told me that it was out of stock...... Like what????!?!?!?! Seriously???? I beg, pleaded and explained to the person who served me about this client, and she seemed sympathetic, she told me she'll try her best to help me and told me to wait for her call. So I did. And few days later, she told me she had traded with her colleague and gave me the reserved stock! Yay! I was so happy!

But my happiness didn't last.....

Few weeks later when we were choosing laminates for the carpentry, same thing happened.... NO STOCK! -.-

I thought to myself, how could that be possible? Twice in a row? Wrong.

Same thing happened when we were choosing the Quartz surface worktop too.... So that's Trice!

How could someone be that unlucky? He kept bragging about how he always helped people and now he's blessed with a good wife and great daughters, but how come whatever he chooses, seemed to be out of stock??? It was the first ever case that I have met which the items the client chooses is out of stock 3 times in a roll!

Not bad enough? NOPE.

Last week, my plumber was fixing his toiletry, and suddenly, whoosh! Pipe burst.

Oh for God's sake!!!!! We were so close to finishing the project!! SO CLOSE!!!!! Why??? WHY is this happening? Is the house cursed? Or is this man just purely unlucky? Or is it ME whose unlucky for meeting this particular client? My job is hard enough! Not to mention, I'm not only dealing with his project, I'm also dealing with 5 other on going projects!

The story doesn't end there... but for the sake of this blog post, I will end my rant here.

Lesson I learnt in this experience: Turn off your bloody whatsapp notification when you're sleeping. That shit will wake you up.

I've had my fair share of being in a relationship and being the needy girlfriend. Don't you just hate it when he doesn't reply your text or when he doesn't tell you exactly where he is or what he's doing? To that person, what's the big deal? He/she was busy and didn't have time to reply your text, but for you, you're feeling so down and thinking are you not important enough for him/her to take a few seconds off to reply you? Or at least tell you that he/she's busy?

Sooner or later, fights occur and what do you know, he/she will tell you that they needed space or that he/she's not ready for a relationship.

You're world will then crumble down and it will shock you as you've given them so much of your love, only to be rejected.

Now, I've been through this before and it ain't good. I cried so hard that I became obsessed. Let me tell you, once you've heard your ex's friend say that you're crazy, then you know that it's time for a change.

From experiences from my friend and myself, I know that being needy is a turn off. And knowing all my bad habits and attitudes are the only things that are holding me back, I told myself that I must change, it is all for the better and the sake of my future. You gotta learn from your mistakes right?

A lot of people have the habit of saying "I've changed, I've learnt my lesson! Just give me a chance!" when they're trying to get their boyfriends/girlfriends back. But when you beg them to take you back by saying you've changed, it actually backfires on you because it only reflects on how needy you are of them to the point of pretending to change just to get them back. So of course they're not convinced!

Pretending to change and actually changing are both very different things! I had to learn that the hard way! You don't change overnight! No one changes overnight. The only reason why they
feel that you're so needy is because you care for that person too much than they think they deserve!
You're practically scaring them away! So how can you suddenly care for that person so much, and then just totally be ok with not caring the next day? You can't! It takes lots of lonely nights filled with tears and a few heartaches to finally not give a shit! To feel that you've had enough! And by the time that you find yourself finally changed, you'll find yourself better off without them! That you can actually focus on yourself rather than them!

It doesn't mean you've completely moved on from them, it just means that you will survive with or without them in your life! You don't have to get rid of them completely, you just need to have time to yourself without them. Even though it's not healthy to keep contact with them, as it'll only make the healing process slower, it doesn't mean that it's not possible.

After I started working and have lots of time to myself, I started to realize that there are so many things that I wanted to do and learn that I was too out of focus to realize in the past! Knowing that I have better things go do than to worry about why he/she did not reply my text and making myself go crazy. I'm not saying that I've completely changed, just that I've improved to be less needy than I was before. And let me tell you, the road was not easy AT ALL.

I'm not there yet, but I'm that much closer.

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